2 Misconception of Love!

The misconception of Love

Myth 1: “Love at first sight”

Is it romantic love or  Imaginary wishful thinking  with no  real emotion?

Love at first sight can often be misleading; how is it possible that you do not have sufficient knowledge about a person’s characteristics and you fall in love?  Explaining that immediate feeling of love is actually more difficult but many imagine that the first step is nothing more than sexual attraction..

Attraction is one of the most basic building blocks for love.  Some people develop the attraction later after periods of friendship but attraction is what draws you to want to know someone new, it builds up the passionate early days of relationship.

Love at first sight is often, very intense because it is based more on expectations and imagination and at first sight attributes.. the height, the smiles, the looks, the perfume and so on. You feel drawn to the person because you are influenced by something about the person. Leading up to be the basis of sexual desires  So clearly, attractive people are more likely to be the object of love at first sight because  of their outwardly pleasant persona , they do not struggle with the initial likeable obstacle like most do.

How can you really judge a person’s honesty or true character before you even get to know them ?  The myth is, with love at first sight, there is  high value accorded to the individual’s external appearance which is projected onto internal characteristics. This can be seen as misleading and often lead to people  holding distorted emotional beliefs. What ever you believe, most of us still remember the first time you had that “feeling”, that quick glance into that person’s eye that had stayed with you forever!

 

Love at first sight can be very intense whether it is profound feeling depends on where you are on the sliding scale of idealism and cynicism.

Love at first sight is either a recipe for living happily ever after or eventual disillusionment and leading to heartbreak.

 

 

 

Myth 2.. Does Love conquers all ?

Love is for sure a beautiful thing. We all have our own ideas of what love is, but it’s really never as simple as that. Supposedly, you fall in love. head over heels. Lucky you. everything thing is magically working out.  Love is necessary in order for the relationship to last. While love is very powerful and capable of conquering some things, for some, it’s complicated with unrealistic expectations . Sometimes love isn’t always strong enough to conquer all, sometimes two people just don’t fit, it’s unfortunate, but it’s a fact, love simply cannot conquer incompatibility.

The reason most people are so bored, no enthusiasm and totally jaded is  because they stay in relationships that aren’t working for them for way too long. They try to be what the other person needs and wants, they try to make it work by any means necessary, they try with all their might and wind up broken. exhausted and  defeated.

Frankly, you simply cannot shove a square peg into a round hole. It doesn’t matter how many ways you try, you will never be able to make it fit.

Be real.

You were going to fall in love with the perfect person. Why? they don’t exist . Love is flawed. Good days and bad days. .  Sometimes just accept your reality and Face the truth. Real love helps get past the bad times. Not all love is meant to last but look past the flaws,  people and environments lead us in discovering ourselves and appreciating our values better. Other times the experiences are to teach us that we deserve better and  loving someone does not necessarily guarantee you a happily ever after, more often, real love requires hard work.. you learn how to talk to each other, be supportive, compromise, find solution to problems. You know you are in love when you willing to talk about things and not hold grudges, it is worth it in  the end.

Love should never be consistently painful. You might feel hurt about something but after talking you should feel good again. You can not force love  but heartbreak can open doors to personal growth and this growth can lead to another kind of love, one that can lead to  living happily ever after!

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