Being calm inside!

Be calm today.

Reflect and appreciate what today has really been about or?? where has today gone !

big question is..! how was your today!

Fun filled? too much drama?? humbling?? how are you today?

Whatever the circumstance, you are in the right place and everything that has happened and still happening today and now, is happening at exactly the right moment !!! It is and was meant to happen just the way it unfolds today.

So stop yearning for something different life.

Ok. agreed you had  design ventures for the future to have started today and it either did or it did not…but quit stealing  more time !

Today, you have either tried or messed up.. so what next??

are you going to try to do  more fun things that brings you joy and happiness?? I remind you..things you love to do.. those things  which are blissful to your heart and you are doing them  your own way in your own pace.

Today, begin to accept things the way there are and if loving your achievement is a big deal, just feel proud of what you have done today.

Soon the anguish and emotional suffering will begin to ease off and you will no longer be held down in the path of resistance.. worrying about the future.. you will live each day and every day knowing that you are living in the here and now ..

a path of least resistance !!

Quite a fulfilling experience..

The multi- passionate You!


If you have read my About me page…you will sense that I am a multi-passionate person. It’s a gift. Most of my young life I didn’t I didn’t have an answer to the question “What do you want to be when you grow up?” my answer is always a list.. more than 3 may be 6.  Growing  older and experienced so much more, the answers grew and embarrassingly complex. To some it can look like i am a non-committal person because, I’d throw myself into something, I mean really put in the efforts then suddenly, I’d feel the need to pull off and to focus on another passion, again by throwing myself into to it…on and on it goes.
Believe me, I know and understand the rule of “commit and stick it out, no matter what”. Great rule .. but I struggle to get out and become a single passionate person. I feel weighed down.  If you are a person who is curious about a wide range of topics then you  will agree with me that you do not need to pick one of those topics to the exclusion of other interests. May be you can possibly integrate other subject into your work and retain enough flexibility to explore new ideas.

I  realised that my strengths of starting things and jumping in wholeheartedly means that I  learn better by doing and  Contrary to what the dominant paradigm would have you believe, having multiple passion  is not a weakness. To others it may appear like you are a procrastinator. Jumping around unsure and indecisive. Oh no , It does not make you jack-of-all-trades either! Having many interests can be a source of great personal and financial fulfillment, and with a bit of creativity, almost any career can be made more plural in nature. After we are human beings , very dynamic creatures. We couldn’t put ourselves into a box even if we tried.

This understanding  helps me to be less anxious of what other think of me  and how I choose to do my things. I am  less critical of me but  embrace my passions even better because, balancing life with  Career, kids, a family, a big health scare  and then feeling like it’s time to break free, move on and change things, all while trying to establish own digital platform as a business is , overwhelming for some but  I keep on going. My desire has always been to live out and to share pure living , so I explore and aim to be more creative in what I do.  I care deeply about personal development.  I am gifted to empathetically listen to people’s struggles and know what they need to hear to open them up to growth and healing not be held back by their current situations  hence, I use different methods to communicate inspiration.

So, if you’re multi-passionate person, there’s a good chance that there is a wealth of creativity residing within you. Use that creativity to come up with unique ways to incorporate your multiple passions into your vision!!

Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you. ~ Oprah Winfrey..

 

the balanced me!

I woke up this morning and it is another day.. Be positive I thought..it is going to be a great fantastic and effective week. Remembering the affects our thinking has on our lives, whether positive or negative.
I kept thinking..It is not hard to do though.  But why do many rubbish this  way of thinking.. After all positive thinking is a mental and emotional attitude that focuses on the bright side of life and expects positive results 99.9% of the time.. So without pressure, As a positive person, I have to anticipate happiness and success, as way of thinking.. As well as believe I can overcome any obstacle and difficulty today and always. So can You!

how well do you know your partner?

The label narcissist is used loosely these days, typically to indicate anyone who is otiose and self-interested, egocentric, self -absorbed, selfish and self centred but this is a true subtle personality disorder and its traits run much deeper, and carry long-term draining, demanding and challenging effects for those involved with these people. Just saying… for example, (God forbid)..you are married or in a relationship with a narcissist, you will likely feel more like an object to be used and manipulated to meet the narcissistic partner’s goals and needs. …

Here Are 20 Ways to Tell… is your partner a narcissists.. (By Psychology Today)

  1. When something goes wrong, does your partner blame everyone but himself or herself?
  2. Does your partner refuse to be accountable for his or her bad behavior? (For example, “You made me so mad that I couldn’t help . . .”)
  3. Does your partner believe he or she is always right?
  4. Is your partner unable to tune in to your feelings or your children’s feelings?
  5. Does your partner carry grudges against you and others?
  6. Is your partner constantly telling you what to do? Is your partner critical and judgmental of you and your friends?
  7. Does your partner make you feel “not good enough”? Have your partner’s constant put-downs caused you to assume this message?
  8. Does your partner ever ask about you, your day, or your feelings, even in transient?
  9. Does your partner lie and then make you feel guilty? Do you have to cover up for your partner?
  10. Does your partner lack empathy for you? Have you consistently questioned if your partner loves you?
  11. When something difficult happens in your life (for instance, an accident, illness, a death in your family or circle of friends), does your partner react with immediate concern about how it affects you rather than with concern for him?
  1. Have you consistently felt a lack of emotional closeness with your partner?
  1. Does your partner manipulate/ tell different people different stories about the same event, spinning the story so that he or she looks good?
  2. Does your partner mistrust everyone? Is your partner all about image and how things look to others? Does your partner act jealous of you/ your status/your strength/your wealth…
  3. Is your partner critical and judgmental of you and others?
  4. Do you feel that your partner does not know and value the real you and does not want to know the real you?
  5. Does your partner appear phony to you?
  6. Does your partner try to compete with you?
  1. Does your partner always have to have things his or her way?
  2. Do you feel used by your partner? Does your partner always have to have things his or her way?

 

Of course, there is hope and healing and if you are determined and are struggling with an emotionally abusive relationship … I encourage you to reach out, get help, and learn as much as you can about this deceptive disorder. You deserve to be loved and cherished, as do your children!!!

The beauty of love..

Love is the mysterious force that binds people to those around them.

love is beautiful. Love has many forms, and each of these forms evolves,  and changing intensity. My own experience with love comes in many forms. I love many people, and many things, all in different ways. It can sometimes be ugly, but it is always beautiful.
I’ve had a fascination with love all my life. Ever since I was a young girl I fantasized about the romantic kind of love. I used to write stories about a woman that I some day hoped to be, and how she would find the perfect man for her, her soulmate, and fall in love with him. They would have the perfect relationship and never fight. I thought that was what love was supposed to be like, and why it was so special to people.
This idea threw me for a long time. When I first began dating, I was dead set on finding that perfect kind of love, and discarded any relationship that began to seem like it wouldn’t live up. Finally, in looking at the relationships of others, I began to find that this form of love didn’t  really exist. That didn’t mean that love didn’t exist, but the love I saw around me was a messier, more complicated version. And I couldn’t find any two forms of love that were identical. Every loving relationship I saw had its own qualities and idiosyncrasies.

But that feeling you get from meeting someone  a stranger and then you realise how beautiful and magical love can be. It is one of the most exciting things that you can experience.
It is fascinating to think how you can go your whole life without knowing a person, and then when you meet them they just fit into your life and you can’t imagine how you were ever living without them. It is impossible to know where love comes from, or why, but it comes into your life and you make room for it. You are happy to accommodate it because of all the joy it brings you.

So I find the purest form of love, unconditional love, is the most beautiful. Most parents love unconditionally. It is a love so deep and unchanging, something that exists no matter what else happens in the world.
Love can have varying levels of intensity. However, loving others is one of the best ways to becoming a better person. The love you feel  for others arouses your curiosity and makes you interested in learning more about them, and as a result, you do everything you can to take care of them, this often means sacrificing the things that make you happiest.

To be more giving and selfless is an incredibly beautiful thing – it is called Love!