Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but rather learning to start over.” ― Nicole Sobon
Letting go of people, concepts, needs, expectations, desires; bad habits, false beliefs and unhealthy relationships…can be difficult.
Every day, moments present opportunities for creativity, for us renew ourselves, to shake off the baggage of the past, open ourselves up to the possibility of the minute and to take action to create incredible future. Thinking from our past is acceptable. They can act to strengthen our present delights in life. Decent thoughts exist as positive inspiration, but, the thoughts that seem to burden us the most are typically the unfortunate, ugly ones. That experience that had deeply wounded. We bring it all back into the present moment. We replay these past mistakes over and over again in our head. Somehow it feels that the act of these obsessive replaying of the shame and regrets and worry about the future, somehow gives us power. These unhappy or hurtful past events bring in heartaches, despair, and may include destructive behaviours.
Letting go of the past and its negative feelings is not an easy task and will not happen overnight but it helps us to live our best life in the present and paves the way for future triumph.
It frees us to see the instant pleasures in life and lay the grounds for a happy healthy future. If we let go our expectations and our judgements, we find a sense of calm and inner peace, a greater sense of strength because we are not in struggle with what we think things should be.
When you find yourself dwelling in the past or thinking of unhappy past events, become aware of your thinking and reactions, open yourself to recognise when you are thinking turns to negative. Your awareness means that lifestyle you have been living no longer fits you. .. Awareness neutralises undesirable thoughts and allows you to come back to the present moment. To some degree, awareness will give you a depth of understanding to recognise that the action is not the person. That your actions may not be respectable, but you- the person is perfect. That no one else is responsible for you but You. You are in full control of your life so, claim it and own it.
Dwelling and obsessing about painful, seemingly unfair actions without considering how we played a role in them and using these events to justify negativity; resentment; self-centered, irresponsible actions. Leave us playing the victim. Having no control, feeling powerless, we give our influence away. Although the rumor mill, suggests blaming our parents, the teachers, the government, etc., but never to blame yourself? MISTAKEN! If you want to let go and move on with your life, you’re the only person who can make it happen. Focus inward. Do not look outside yourself . Stop and look inside yourself instead. Consciously choose to let go of victimising thoughts. Free yourself from shame and self-judgments. Live, let go and learn what you can from your experiences.
Do not waste energy distressing about the things you cannot change. Concentrate more on what you can change, and if you cannot change it, change your perception about it. . Review you. What makes you feel blooming? Make positive adjustments. Examine your options and then re-package what you don’t like into a starting point for accomplishing something greater.
After all the past is gone, the present is here, and the future is yet to arrive.